The Feminist Man

Two months back, the world wished the entire Papa’s ‘A HAPPY FATHER’S DAY’. With the flow I too wished my Daddy one; the very next reply from him was “there is something called Father’s day too, I just thought Mothers stole all the importance of raising a child.”

Sharing this incident with one of my bestie, he too exclaimed “see we don’t want any appreciation!”

Apparently it’s true, a lot of women around argue on this; the importance of being a girl, a lady, a Mother, a Grandmother .But the real importance of being a woman is not understood by the woman itself. What she has to be with, live with and the limits she has to fly with.

Looking at our ancestral roots, at least in the Indian context, we can see the importance of gender equality there. At every major incident, the lady has been given her status approval, her dignity is safe guarded, she had been more adventurous and live than women today. What has caused this change in them? The education? Lifestyle? or the family?

No! Not at all, the matters were there then too. She was much educated then than today’s standards. She has traveled, worked, and raised her family. Maybe just few, but she was in her shell, the shell of love, passion and protection.

The argument on feminism, the women rights sometimes have been a burden to women itself. But is the “Feminism” the only solution? Is it like the cast based reservation in India?Feminism had turned out in to a community of male hater. Rather some women are ill-using this tool to enjoy domination over males. The tendency to look at the men with same eyes has developed. Trust whom, friendships, I work more than him, or I get paid less comparing to him, these have just been regular in discussions in social media.

When you raise an argument, ‘that all men are the same, they think of raping you’, does your Father, brother or husband think that way, or maybe the guys gang whom you roam around in anytime.

My friend quoted “The main problem here are the feminist groups who are putting all men in the same box. the continuous nagging of being potential rapist or continuous targeting the men will someday make even the good men also stop thinking towards equality. Men will get irritated and the whole movement to make out context free of gender discrimination will just stall.”

Reading the above sentences, am sure my “female” friends are going to raise the question on how I could think about such topic against feminism. The importance lies everywhere, for everyone. But hoe that importance is to be used in what context is what nails the definition of being feminist!

I agree, we need gender equality, everywhere!  Even I fight for it, but think about were to fight and when! Not just on every word or sentence a Man speaks.